Marriage and Family Relationships in Islam

How do people perceive a family in terms of Islam? What do you know about the nuances of dating, including the private and hidden sides of life? What are the unobvious and obscure moments of starting a Muslim family? Let’s find out the subtle aspects of the traditional lifestyle of a family in Islamic countries.

The Very Beginning of the Relationship   

A guy or a man cannot just approach a Muslim lady to make acquaintance with her, it is just forbidden. Besides, a young Muslim girl cannot leave home without elder women or male relatives, this is indecent. Unmarried girls are excited about meeting their husbands who are to become the most important people in their lives. They will do their best to make their spouses’ dreams and wishes come true.  They will aim at pleasing their husbands in all the possible ways since their happiness will be the main happiness and joy for them. They will give birth to the kids and will devote themselves to raising them, and girls will remain loyal until the end of their days. This is how juvenile Muslim girls are brought up. A guy should start dating a girl only if he has serious intentions and wants to start a family with her. Not to succumb to the temptations, a man shouldn’t stay alone with a lady if she is not the blood relation as well as talk and lay hands on her.

The Choice of a Partner

In conformity with the Qur’an, a guy can and should get married not only when he has decided that it is high time to settle down, but also if he has physiological needs to interact with a girl. He should neither seek casual relationships (it is malice) nor restrain his desires, so the best thing for a man is to get married.

In addition, the common belief that the fiancée must be only a vestal is not entirely truthful. Both partners should better have no sexual encounter before the wedding, so they should be innocent before the meeting. Meanwhile, it is considered correct and natural for young people to learn about satisfying sexual desires in conformity with the directions of Allah. The girl is believed to be ready for matrimony if she is 9 years old. However, matrimony with a dowager or a divorcee is perceived completely normal. Prophet Mohammed had a big age gap with his first spouse for whom this matrimony was already the second one. 

When choosing a partner, the families in which young people were raised play a big role. A future fiancée should choose a spouse who has a good education, and whose financial status is at least equal to her own one. The high welfare of the spouse is an assurance of marital certainty since the social status of the wife and kids is depend on the spouse. Having a lower quality of life, the wife may regret the marriage and feel frustration. In conformity with the Qur’an, the future fiancée must voluntary agree on matrimony, she cannot be forced, and both partners must marry for love. Of course, love before the wedding is only platonic in Islam. The person realizes their destiny and satisfies their sexual wishes and needs only in the matrimony.

Family Life of Muslims: Do Women Suffer?

The family holds a special place in the life of Muslims. Caring for relatives, spouse, children are considered as part of worship. The creation of the family is the basis for the preservation of kinship and procreation. Allah obliged Muslims to marry and give birth to children.

  • Relationships in a Polygamous Family

Many people are concerned about the issue of polygamy in Islam. As is known, according to Shariah, a man has the right to simultaneously get married to four women who are not sisters to each other. However, along with such a right, great responsibilities are imposed on the spouse.

There are criteria by which a man can take another wife. Allah allows but warns that a Muslim man will not be absolutely fair to all his wives. This is a very important circumstance because on Judgment Day he would pay for the way he treated his spouses whether oppressed any of them or infringed upon their rights.

  • Divorce in Islam

The family is the fortress of man’s faith, and Muslims are responsible for its creation.

However, unfortunately, Muslims are often divorced, using a very simple procedure. They just three times pronounce the word “Talaq!” This is permitted by Allah, but it is the most unloved deed for Him.

The Holy Book indicates the holiness and continuity of the bonds of marriage. Also, one of the verses explains the relationship of the spouses, “Being apparel for each other means that just as clothes on the body protect us from external environmental influences and hide flaws, so spouses should protect each other always and everywhere. The husband acts as a protector in the family, and the wife must be his support.”

  • Women’s Role in a Muslim Family

The rights of a woman and her position are spelled out in Islam. Contrary to common stereotypes, a Muslim woman is not humiliated or infringed. If you study Islamic law more deeply, it will become clear that the wife, mother, daughter occupy a high status and have more rights than it seems at first glance. All canons are aimed at ensuring that a spouse or father could protect and financially provide for his family. The head of the family solves many questions, but he also bears full responsibility for every family member.

To illustrate the fact that a woman occupies a high position in the Islamic world, the Hadiths serve and say, “Paradise is under the feet of mothers,” “Looking at a daughter with a smile, her father receives twice the reward than while looking at a son,” “A righteous wife is half an Iman for a husband.” And in the Qur’an, a whole sura is devoted to a woman.

In other words, the family for Muslims is not only a sacred duty but also a way to achieve contentment of Allah. It helps a person refrain from the forbidden things and deeds, find the meaning of life and support, strengthen their relationship with their parents. After all, only those who have children can understand what feelings their father and mother have for them and how they worry about their failures and are happy about their successes.